A short questions tool

What is your mind circling?

Six quick questions, about two minutes. No email needed to see your result.

Your answers stay in your browser. Nothing is saved unless you choose to sign up after your result. It points to one of three loops from how to stop ruminating. It is not a diagnosis and not clinical advice.

1. When the loop starts, what is your mind actually doing?

Arguing with a choice I have already made. Weighing the same options again, with nothing new to weigh. Replaying who said what, and what I should have said.

2. Which sentence sounds most like the one you keep saying to yourself?

“I just need a bit more time to be sure.” “I still can't believe they said that, or that I said nothing.” “Maybe I got it wrong after all.”

3. What would quieten the loop for a day?

Saying the thing I have not said. Someone telling me the choice I made was right. Knowing for certain which way to go.

4. When you try to stop, what do you do?

Go back over the story to see if I missed something. Make another list, ask another person, read another article. Look for a way to make the old arrangement work after all.

5. How much do you already know?

I know what I decided. I don't trust it. I know exactly how I feel. I haven't said it out loud to anyone. I think I know what I want, and staying where I am still feels safer.

6. What does the loop cost you most?

Time, and the life I keep putting off. Energy, and trust in my own decisions. Ease with the person it is about.

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